yea ... it fyrfli<p>heya everyone. </p><p>i put it in my application but i think i'll put it here too. </p><p>i was ecstatic when <span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://blackqueer.life/@tillshadeisgone" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>tillshadeisgone</span></a></span> fired up this space. we need more spaces like these. i held off on joining because ... well, for a long time i've avoided claiming the queer label for myself. y'see ... i am cishet presenting and i feel like claiming the label sort of ... i don't know. it feels inauthentic and obnoxious. </p><p>but lately, in my ever growing quest to learn more about myself the world around me, i've discovered that cishet presenting or not, i'm pretty damn queer myself. </p><p>i've never fully identified with 'female' - i feel agender most days and i finally found a term for that - demifem(me). i'm also bi-curious and apparently non-monogamous. (apparently because while we've talked about it, the hubster and i, we've only now actually gotten serious about really learning more about it). and so here i am ... </p><p>i like <a href="https://blackqueer.life/tags/Huskies" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Huskies</span></a> and <a href="https://blackqueer.life/tags/Spitzs" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Spitzs</span></a> - we have two huskies and a <a href="https://blackqueer.life/tags/Mittelspitz" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Mittelspitz</span></a>. i have an IT background and know my way around a <a href="https://blackqueer.life/tags/linux" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>linux</span></a> command line. i self host a lot of services including my own <a href="https://blackqueer.life/tags/fedi" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>fedi</span></a> server. i play a lot of video games - lately that's <a href="https://blackqueer.life/tags/Remnant2" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Remnant2</span></a>, <a href="https://blackqueer.life/tags/PathOfExile" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>PathOfExile</span></a>, and <a href="https://blackqueer.life/tags/SurvivingMars" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>SurvivingMars</span></a> to name a couple or three. </p><p>i make my own <a href="https://blackqueer.life/tags/BodyButter" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>BodyButter</span></a> , am trying to learn <a href="https://blackqueer.life/tags/Mandalas" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Mandalas</span></a>, i love a good <a href="https://blackqueer.life/tags/Book" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Book</span></a> especially if it's <a href="https://blackqueer.life/tags/TrueCrime" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>TrueCrime</span></a> (and lately i've been looking for more <a href="https://blackqueer.life/tags/cult" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>cult</span></a> stuff since the <a href="https://blackqueer.life/tags/SerialKiller" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>SerialKiller</span></a> stuff is so overdone). </p><p>i was born in <a href="https://blackqueer.life/tags/Jamaica" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Jamaica</span></a>, grew up there , worked there for over 15 years. met the hubster playing <a href="https://blackqueer.life/tags/WorldOfWarcraft" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>WorldOfWarcraft</span></a> , got married after a 3-year long distance relationship and i moved to the <a href="https://blackqueer.life/tags/US" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>US</span></a> </p><p>i'm effectively disabled <a href="https://blackqueer.life/tags/GAD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>GAD</span></a> and <a href="https://blackqueer.life/tags/PTSD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>PTSD</span></a> and recently got my <a href="https://blackqueer.life/tags/ADHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ADHD</span></a> diagnosis. </p><p>*pant-pant*</p><p>so .. yeah ... hi 👋🏾</p>