A parent whose child we know asked for a playdate and suggested we meet at a playground I haven't been to before. (Others told me that it is large, busy and sunny.)
Playdates stress me out. Having to go to a crowded and sunny playground that I haven't been to before would stress me out like hell: How do I get there? Where can I park the car? What kind of equipment is there and which of it can our child use? etc.
So I suggested a different playground that we both know and that is typically quiet and shadowy.
It was quiet indeed when we met there with the kids. The shadow gave our child, who is nauseated by sunscreen, a carefree afternoon. When we returned home, I was tired, but not completely exhausted.
I congratulate myself on the decision to suggest a familiar, quiet playground. I was aware of my own preferences and made sure they were respected, and I escaped sensory overload.
If the other parent would like to explore new playgrounds, they can do this on any other day – without me.