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#adoptee

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tinker꩜ishe

I've just edited my profile introduction & thought I'd do another posted intro as well, since it's been awhile.

🍕 I'm from the #stateofGeorgia in Southeastern US.
🍕 An actual #adoptee, I'm in reunion with some of my biological family.
🍕 I #crochet and #draw | #sketch and enjoy practicing amateur #mobilephotography -- this is my work as traditional employment wasn't the best fit for me.
🍕 I'm proud of my #Appalachian roots | birth culture and always looking for good #stories about life in those mountains.
👾 I play #StardewValley
🌈 Rainbow-friendly, y'all.
🖋️ Office | #Stationery supplies are my jam!! Sadly, I'm rarely asked about my favorite pens or pencils etc.

What are y'all up to?

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Tony Corsentino :bongoCat:

as i have said before and will never tire of saying, i am in awe of the energy, creativity, and courage of the Korean #adoptee diaspora in bringing the realities of adoption in front of the eyes of those—millions of them—who prefer to look the other way.

tinker꩜ishe

I finally got 'round to updating my Substack and going to work on posting there more often now.

I've been marveling at how much easier it is to get things done without Meta-based brain clutter.

I've not left Meta -- I may eventually hop on & deactivate accounts. But for now, I've backed away quietly. A big part of this is the fact that I'm in recent reunion with my biological family. I'm an #adoptee -- so not only am I recently in reunion, but several have added me on Facebook & it makes me sad to think of leaving the platform totally behind... feels a little like severing those relationships without giving them half a chance, even though that's not what I'd be doing at all. I will be inviting some of my newly-acquainted first family to other apps where we can do the same things as on Facebook, but I'm taking my time to figure the best way to phrase those invitations.

#adopteechallenges#adopteevoices
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tinker꩜ishe

Genuine question for those who have left Meta in the dust:

How did y'all address with family members the topic of "we're not going to be on Meta anymore & would like to switch to [insert non-Meta messaging app]?

And if you went this route, what apps did y'all choose as extended families?

I personally don't have a family chat thread in Messegner, but I'm recently in reunion [I'm an adoptee] with bio-fam who are relatively active on FB. I'm not leaving the app yet, but I feel like that could happen at some point...

#howdidyouhandle#advice#question
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tinker꩜ishe

So much to catch y'all up on. Cliff notes:
- We've completed our move to Georgia [state] from North Carolina.
- I finally gathered the courage to write a few biological family members & have received a reply... #adoptee
- ...I've since spoken to 2 half-siblings & a bio-parent. It's a lot for all parties to process, but we'll be okay.
- I'm currently reading: How to Draw and Wite in Fountain Pen by Ayano Usamura in addition to The Life-Changing Manga of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo.
- I've been taking a TON of photos around our new home, mostly of animals...
- speaking of which, my dad got an incubator for his birthday; 29 out of 30 of the first eggs he tried it out with have hatched...

소주한잔

“My dad died thinking, ‘I raised my daughter. I did my part,’ but not knowing it put me on a path of instability and fear. Adoption tells you: You’re an American, this is your home. But the United States doesn’t see me as an American.”

"Now she lays awake at night, wondering what it would be like to be sent back to Iran."

"They know it could happen, because it already has."

#trump #immigration #deportation #adoptee

apnews.com/article/adoption-ci

Buttons, who the Associated Press is referring to only by her childhood nickname because of her legal status, sits for a portrait behind her baby photo taken before she was adopted from Iran to a family in America, Monday, June 24, 2024, in Henderson, Nev. Buttons is one of thousands of children adopted from abroad by American parents, many of them military service members, who were left without citizenship by loopholes in American law that Congress has been aware of for decades, yet remains unwilling to fix. (AP Photo/David Goldman)
AP News · ‘US doesn’t see me as an American’: Thousands of adoptees live in limbo without citizenshipBy CLAIRE GALOFARO
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Boots Chantilly

Ooo, it's time for a 🧵!

Every time I post my support for #abortion rights & access, some jackwagon comes along & tries to shame this #adoptee by responding AREN'T YOU GLAD YOUR MOTHER CHOSE LIFE (or something similar).

1st off, my mother didn't chose anything. I was born in 1961, & choice didn't exist. She was forced to grow & bear me--& then forced to surrender me to strangers.

2nd, I absolutely wish she'd had reproductive choice. EVERYONE should--not everyone but my mother. +

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Karen Pickell

@genchat@lor.sh @genchat@a.gup.pe Just catching up on this morning's #genchat and, whew, as an #adoptee it's interesting to read various viewpoints on DNA testing & learning of family secrets. There's no shame in anyone wanting to know where they come from, even when that someone may be previously unknown to their bio relatives. Yes, there are unfortunately still those who wish to maintain their secrets, but none of us is obligated to oblige, and DNA testing makes that kind of thing nearly impossible anyway.

Karen Pickell

This journey, to allow oneself to be seen, is one I'm on as well. It's an #adoptee thing, I think, to want to protect one's true self at all costs.

"I’ve rarely felt comfortable being seen, but especially up close — it has always felt much safer to be witnessed from afar, still able to hide a bit. It has felt safer to not be truly known; if no one truly knows you, no one can see what’s wrong with you."

open.substack.com/pub/lisaoliv #AdopteeVoices

Human Stuff · To be knownBy Lisa Olivera
Adoptees Unite

Have you heard about the Devens?

Blake [M17] & London [F27] Deven are 2 #adoptees adopted into the same family at separate times. In early 2024, Fayetteville, NC police learned that #adoptee Blake Deven has been missing since circa 2022. During a separate investigation in April 2024, they learned that London Deven, Blake's adopted sibling, has been missing since 2019. Learn more from our Instagram post on the story.

instagram.com/adoptees.unite/p

#adopteesinthenews#adopteevoices
tinker꩜ishe

I spent today and part of yesterday writing letters to some of my biological family members. I think these are both the most difficult letters I've ever written and the ones I'm most proud to have penned...

I've never met any genetic relative, to my knowledge. I've no medical history from either first parent... It's time.

Theme song 🎵 of the moment: Bravery Be Written by The Show Ponies 🎶

#adoptee#actuallyadopted#adopteevoices
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tinker꩜ishe

Instagram, too -- it seems they've become and adverts app practically overnight. My friends and I have been chatting about how we've seen so many repeated reels, advertisements one right after the other... it's not looking too good.

Yet, Instagram is where most of my #adoptee | #adopteevoices content has been going. It's so frustrating...

I reckon this looks more like a vent than anything else. But I also honestly wanted to inform anyone unaware that this is going on. Thank y'all for reading through. And for any advice, encouragement, or even petitions to sign to stop, or at least readjust the madness...

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tinker꩜ishe

Y'all might shake your heads at this thread & give me a knowing look as though we've all been expecting these changes, and you'd be correct. But for me, this hit a little differently, I think. Maybe I'm just seeking others to validate what I'm feeling... I don't know.

I'm an #adoptee and my adoptive parents live in Georgia, while I live in North Carolina. My parents were fairly slow to join any social media, and in my mom's case, she was even slower to add me as a friend once she was there. They added me as a friend on FB in 2021 and 2023. It's been really fun having them there. I get to see more of the lives they lead when I'm not able to be there in person.

My mom is so annoyed by Meta AI messing with her ability to search, it caused me to fear she might leave the app. That wouldn't be the end of the world... but it still saddens me.

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tinker꩜ishe

I ordered an ancestry kit some time ago; tested myself as an adoptee. Got my results & later got DNAngels help to confirm some of those matches. Since then, beyond working on writing letters to bio family members, I've been a bit lost as to how to move forward in working with my tree, doing the appropriate research to confirm family members. If I had to choose a "goal" with this it would be to follow the trail of my ancestors to confirm for myself how we came to this country... Suggestions? Ideas? Best [easy] books for beginners to use as guides?

@genealogy @adoptees #adoptee #actuallyadopted #genealogy #familytree #research

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