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Elise (they/ them)🇦🇺🏳️‍🌈

#WritersCoffeeClub 3/30: Do you label your works as LGBTQIA+? Why or why not?

I call Ruarnon Trilogy #LGBTQIA+ or queer led #fantasy. The MC Ruarnon happens to be #nonbinary, and aromantic, and asexual (so am I 😉 ), and the second major pov (Linh) is also #aromantic and #asexual. These are not common identities and I want people to know that rep (and other queer rep) is there.

But how much to emphasise it when the plot focuses on friendship, adventure, mystery, action, war etc? I don't know.

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dreieck

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Does, als alternative to commercial #dating platforms, something like a #fediverse instance or other #noncommercial/ not-centrally-owned platform aimed at finding people for private connections exist which is #usable (↗ reply)?

By "dating" I mean: Not limited to (but not excluding either) #romantic or #sexual encounters, but also to find #friends‍hips, "#platonic"/‍#aromantic #relationships, #buddies for #activities, etc.

And I wish openness for #queer‍ness, #nonbinary, #agender, #lgbt* etc.

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𒌉𒀭𒆠𒀀🏳️‍🌈Qwynnyx🏳️‍⚧️𓅮𓅱𓏏𓏭𓏖𓏞

I'm #bisexual & likely #aromantic as well as rather certainly #nonbinary.
Pronouns are they/them in English tho it gets tricky in languages with grammatical gender.
I've switched to #Linux on #desktop before getting sniped by Copilot but my phone's still in Android's & Google's grasp.
The #cuneiform to the left of my name reads "Child of the cosmos" in #Sumerian & the #hieroglyphs to the right read "primordial" in #AncientEgyptian.
#Introduction
#NeuHier

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Kevin Davy

It's apparently aromantic awareness week. At 60, I only realised a few years ago that this is what I was. Before that, I didn't have a name, only the reality.

One of the things I always knew, from quite a young age, was that I would never be married. As a teen and young man, I was painfully aware of the pressure to settle down and get into a settled relationship. But, to be honest, I never had the desire to. It's not that I didn't try, but it was certainly more in terms of thinking that I should do, rather than because I had any real desire to. It was not a pleasant time in my life. The relationships I did attempt never ended well, which was hardly surprising and almost totally my fault and I always felt a certain amount of guilt about that. I also felt a degree of shame about the way I felt and the need to hide it. It was yet another way in which I was different and the sort of different that stood out and set me apart from others.

Of course, being an undiagnosed autistic, this feeling was nothing new. I had always been different, in so many ways and learning how to hide that, at least as best as I could, had become second nature by then. It also gave me another reason to, that I was so fundamentally broken, that I couldn't even function normally in this way. That it wasn't me, it was all the ways in which I was wrong and dysfunctional and the low self-esteem that arose from this, that made me this way and that if only I could find the key to understanding and therefore potentially fixing this, then I could be alright.

Not that I was going to get to that point for a long time, or that fixing this was ever really an option. But, as the years rolled by and the pressure to be in a relationship faded, I did manage to settle more into my solitary life, without feeling the guilt and failure as much as I did, but with it still being there. Of course, as a man, I had the advantage of being able to do this. There is a quantifiable and appalling difference in the way men and women are treated in this respect. In the ways in which society views unmarried, or unpartnered, men and women, that has nothing to do with the reality and everything to do with prejudice, bigotry and sexism. Something that may never entirely be eradicated. Because the normative expectations of what it means and the ways it should be expressed are deeply engrained.

But, the simple fact is that, being in a traditional romantic relationship is as impossible for me to imagine, or want, as being in a homosexual relationship is for a straight person, or vice versa. We are the way we are, simple as. Not because we're broken, or wrong, or defective in any way. But, because it is our nature. I am aromantic, just as I'm autistic, and there really is nothing wrong with that.

#Aromantic
#Autism

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James Baillie

I think this is from Finn Longman is worth reading re history, sexualities and specifically asexuality and "friendship".

Mocking the old school historians' adage of "clearly they were just friends" has become common but... sometimes they actually were, sometimes there's no "just" about friendship, and to understand past people we should make earnest attempts to broaden our view of what relationships can look like.

finnlongman.com/no-platonic-ex

Finn Longman · Finn Longman: No Platonic ExplanationIt’s Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week and it’s also LGBTQ+ History Month in the UK, which seemed like a good time to talk about a topic I’ve been thinking about a lot recently: t…
#history#queer#aroace
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gene x

It's #Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week so posting since I'm Aro. It's not as well known and I know a lot of people don't know what it exactly is. Basically for me it means I don't feel romantic attraction though I do enjoy some things that would be considered romantic though I don't want to be in an ongoing romantic relationship - this website gives more info if you'd like to learn more: arospecweek.org/ 💚🤍🩶🖤

www.arospecweek.orgAromantic Spectrum Awareness Week – A Celebration of Aromantic Spectrum Experiences and Identities
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Jux 🏳️‍⚧️& - Announcing Endure

it's #aromanticspectrumawarenessweek ! 💚🤍🩶🖤

aromanticism is a romantic orientation spectrum. people in this spectrum have notably reduced, or often absent frequency and intensity of feelings of romantic attraction. aromanticism is not a choice, just like being gay or transgender

it's a common misconception that aromantic people don't ever get crushes; this is not true for all arospec people! it's a spectrum. some may simply not feel that at all, while others not as frequently, and/or not as intensely, or only under specific circumstances, etc. i'm arospec myself, i've only ever had one crush in my whole life. but it was pretty strong!

some people may feel alienated or "broken" for not feeling something that others do feel, or feeling it differently. if you're reading this and you feel this way: you're not broken, you're perfectly valid for being the way you are, and you deserve respect, support and acceptance! ​:BlobCat_Heart:​

and to those who reject aromanticism or think it's weird, please don't spread hate and negativity! people have the right to live as who they are without having to worry about being hated or discriminated, as long as they don't cause any harm!

#aromantic #arospec #lgbtqia

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