As someone taking the opposite path from the below image:
I navigated it most of my life by constantly and obsessively managing my threat presence. It felt like a constant battle with the toxicity of other men. I had my guard up not because there was some threat of women assaulting me, but because watching their guard go up around me felt like being stabbed in the gut, like a lifeline getting cut off.
It took trauma and ego death for me to really start building an actual community for myself. I had bits and pieces I had gathered carefully and with great effort, but all that toxicity kept me from knowing what to do with it.
Now, even later, transition has been a massive weight lifted. (For those in the closet or eggs cracking: people clocking you doesn't make much difference here, if they put up that anti-creep guard around you they're a bitch anyways)
I feel like I can breathe. Connection is so much more casually there. I can see it in people's eyes, I can be in a crowd of strangers and I feel drastically less alone.
Unfortunately, those years of malnourished pain don't just disappear. I still have all of those threat management patterns, I feel like I'm scarred and sometimes even bleeding from that. There's a caution in me, afraid that people will misinterpret, that this wonderful person I want to make friends with will abruptly shut down on me and then disappear from my life if I relax too much, if I'm too open... I still feel like I'm emotionally walking on tip toes...
A Seattle man already awaiting trial for one hate crime charge has now been charged in a second case stemming from a University District encounter last Thursday. Prosecutors described both incidents as unprovoked attacks on transgender women.
Please make as much noise as you can about #YouTube going nazi with their hate speech policy by removing "gender identity and expression" (thus allowing hate to trans/ace/etc)
This is the support article to give feedback to (assuming it's read):
https://support.google.com/youtube/answer/2801939
Talk to any press, big creators, and youtube contacts you have. Companies need to feel massive pain every time this "anti DEI" (people; DEI means People) shit happens.
This is the first Friday off in ages where I have zero appointments scheduled
So far I’ve already:
- Made breakfast
- Started multiple loads of laundry
- Did dishes
- Got kid on the bus
- Swapped bedsheets
Now, cleaning the bathtub.
Where did this trans-chore-mom energy come from?!?
(Yes, the #trans agenda is doing household chores)
Have a lovely day everyone.
San Fransisco: Kehlani, Kim Petras, and Tinashe to headline massive Pride Weekend festival at Pier 80
https://sfstandard.com/2025/04/03/kehlani-lgbtq-pride-weekend-sosf-pier-80-midway/
Het ministerie van Buitenlandse Zaken waarschuwde #trans personen onlangs dat bij een Amerikaanse visumaanvraag alleen het geboortegeslacht erkend wordt. Dit kan problemen opleveren om toegang te krijgen tot de Verenigde Staten. Freya Terpstra, expert #desinformatie en onderzoeker bij #Transgender Netwerk, ziet al langer een mondiale trend van transhaat (en vreest dat het einde nog niet in zicht is).
https://www.volkskrant.nl/columns-opinie/opinie-fascisme-heeft-fabels-over-transgender-mensen-nodig-want-het-is-geen-coherente-ideologie~b004da3a/
It's a good day to be Indigenous, Autistic, and Trans AF today.
@lgbtqia
If you can help us, now is a very good time to do it. We need to extract some folks very, very quickly. We need to raise 2000 we don't have in order to do it. We are under attack.
Please spread this, we don't have much reach.
https://transrescue.org/donations/donate
California: 'Newsom has denounced what he calls the GOP’s “weaponization” of trans issues, but this evidently hasn’t stopped him from using it as a tool himself.'
https://www.erininthemorning.com/p/california-republicans-cite-gavin
HB1041 passed and while we heard some good fight out of some Dems, far too many turned coward and joined forces with MAGA to vote for this online conspiracy-theorist's fever-dream.
It doesn't make me feel better that they are just following the nationwide trend of throwing #trans people under the bus.
I can only hope they can find the spine to stand with us when MAGA comes back for adult medical care and our IDs.
I'm not confident.
“I don't think the best part about looking in the mirror after transition is that I see a woman.
I think the best part is that I see me”
Oof. So much this.
Tracking US allies that have tweaked advisories for trans travelers
https://www.axios.com/2025/04/03/us-allies-travel-advisories-trump-transgender
Tracking US allies that have tweaked advisories for trans travelers www.axios.com/2025/0... #transgender #trans #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA
DE: suche Menschen die #Schwarz #bipoc #linksradikal #intersektional #feministisch #autistisch #autismus #anarchistisch #trans #queer #behindert #neurodivergent #anarchist sind - könnt ihr bitte helfen? Mein Mastodon ist mir zu weiß. dankö
EN: Looking for people that are #Black BIPOC #leftist #intersectional #feminist #autism #autistic #disabled neurodivergent #anarchism #anarchistic #decolonize #poly - could you pls help me? My Mastodon is too white. Pls share, thx!
Please sign!
We call on the European Commission to propose a binding legal ban on conversion practices targeting LGBTQ+ citizens in the European Union:
Conversion Practices are interventions aimed at changing, repressing or suppressing the sexual orientation, gender identity and/or gender expression of LGBTQ+ persons. #gay #trans #lgbtq
"The organization of sex and gender once had functions other than itself—it organized society. Now, it mainly organizes and reproduces itself. The kinds of relationships sexuality established in the dim human past still dominate our sexual lives, our ideas about men and women, and the ways we raise our children. But they lack the functional load they once carried. One of the most conspicuous features of kinship is that it has been systematically stripped of its functions—political, economic, educational, and organizational. It has been reduced to its barest bones—sex and gender...
we are not only oppressed as women; we are oppressed by having to be women—or men as the case may be. I personally feel that the feminist movement must dream of even more than the elimination of the oppression of women. It must dream of the elimination of obligatory sexualities and sex roles. The dream I find most compelling is one of an androgynous and genderless (though not sexless) society, in which one’s sexual anatomy is irrelevant to who one is, what one does, and with whom one makes love."
(Gayle Rubin, "The Traffic in Women")